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    Diagnosis: COVID-19 fatigue

    I am an introvert.  I love spending time alone, it is how I recharge.  But even as an introvert, I am growing weary.  Traveling is my solace and one of my coping mechanisms.  I need the beach.  I need to be beside blue water but while people are still traveling and as my mom would say “spreading joy” I have not brought myself to that place.  I want to travel without restrictions.  I don’t want to stay on the resort.  I don’t want to leave the restaurant by 8pm because of a curfew.  I want to be free!

    Trust me, I am not one of those cabin fever people.  I don’t get cabin fever.  How could I not love staying in the house that I pay for only a few days while the snow purifies the air?  However, this is taking cabin fever to an all new level.  I’m weary of this indoor life.  I’m tired of going out and feeling like the first cough I hear could be from a person infected with the virus.  I am tired of telling my child she can’t visit her friends or go to birthday parties because the truth is…mommy can’t lose her.  So I came up with a term for what I’m feeling.  I call it COVID fatigue (I didn’t really create this term but go with me).

    Being tired is one thing but being fatigued…that’s a different beast. When you are fatigued your muscles ache, your reflexes are slowed, you experience brain fog, you’re chronically tired and you can become moody.  These are just a few symptoms of fatigue but those are enough to make you want a cure, and fast.  2020 has been quite the year.  When the semi-lockdown first started I knew it was going to be a while before a treatment was developed.  I was prepared to stay inside for a few months if it meant that summer would be mine for the taking.  Never did I imagine that we would be less than 45 days from the end of the year and re-entering semi-lockdown.  I was certain that Pooh and I would travel for Christmas.  I was sure that I would be able to get together with friends and family for our annual celebrations.  Instead we are bracing ourselves for holidays apart from loved ones, at least 3 more months of virtual school, and lots of Netflix watching.

    2020 is out here throwing a temper tantrum and knocking everything off the table.  Yesterday I found myself saying, “yo, this is a mess”!  I’ve never seen a world like this.  I feel like Ernest Hemingway, “people are dying who never died before”.  That quote may seem funny because it is ridiculous but that was Ernest’s truth.  Things were so messy in his world, at the time, that the description, to him, was accurate.  Ernest wanted to fix things, put it back the way it was or make it better.  Ernest failed to acknowledge that he was trying to fix life.  But you can’t fix life.  Life is a mess!

    So how do you stay sane during the mess?  What is the treatment for this type of fatigue? I wish I knew but, like Sway, I don’t have the answers.

    The only real solution is to embrace the mess.  Many have found excitement by attending virtual brunches, sip and paints, meetups, happy hours and dance parties.  Fitness instructors have taken their workouts online.  Families are spending more time together, eating dinner together, talking more, and playing games.  People have found many coping mechanisms but even those mechanisms aren’t hitting like they used to.  So what is the answer?  The answer is pivot.  Find something new that brings you joy.  I have started decorating my house.  I’ve been in this house for almost 8 years but was always on the go.  I never realized how many things I wanted to do in the house until I actually spent more time inside than I did in the streets.  I’m taking my time with decorating, it takes me at least 6 weeks to make up my mind anyway.  Decorating is new to me, it’s exciting.  I realized that was the key to my sanity.  I needed something new and fresh.  Something that would allow me to take my mind off of all that is going on in this world.  That’s how you maintain your sanity.  Escape from the mundane, if even for 30 minutes a day and doing something that is new.  If it’s yoga, meditation, designing, coloring; whatever it is…

    Grab your vision board or make a new one.  Figure out something that you want to go after and do that.  We always say what we would do if we had more time.  Well now is your chance.  You have nothing but time.

     

    Still clinking,

    Tee

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    Make It Count!

    Happy New Year Brunch loves!

    This  year is already off to a fast start and I am as excited as a kid in a candy store.  One thing that is always on my to-do list for the new year is creating a Vision Board.  I have created a vision board every year for the past 11 years and I have seen amazing results.  I am a strong believer of seeing, believing and achieving and that motto has not failed me yet.

    Another must do on my list is setting my intentions.  We’ve all heard of the book The Secret.  The book really didn’t say anything we haven’t heard before but it has served as a good reminder of the power of the tongue.  My intention this year is to Make It Count!  Every word, every action, every thing that I pursue; I have to make it count.  Life is like a vapor.  One minute it’s here the next it’s gone.  My intention is to make sure that I am not wasting the time that I am granted here on Earth.

    I want every second of every minute of my life to count.  I want to use my gifts and talents to impact the life of every person I come in contact with.  I have dreams, goals and desires for myself and my family and I want to make sure that everything I do in one way or the other positively impacts what I am building.

    What do  you see for yourself in 2019?  How do you plan on making this life count.  Don’t forget

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    Carpe Diem!

    Always Clinking,

     

    Tee

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    Holiday Blues

    Once upon a time not long ago I used to LOVE this time of the year.  My house would smell like cinnamon and pine trees.  The house would be decorated with lights, garland and ornaments of all sizes.

    Seven years ago everything changed.  My life got flipped turned upside down (See what I did there), and Christmas has never been the same since.  I have a little one (not so little but you get the point) so I push myself each year to make Christmas magical for her when all I really want to do is lay in bed and feel sorry for myself.  However this year I still haven't found my umph.

    I am by no means this guy:

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    What I have realized during this time is that people that have not experienced intimate loss have a hard time understanding why people like me are all Bah Humbug during the most wonderful time of the year.  So I'm here to rescue my wounded and hurting.

    It's okay to not feel like throwing confetti during this time of the year.  It's ok that your tree might not be up yet.  Mine went up at 2am this morning and will be down by the 26th.  It's ok if you take the day to practice self care instead of going caroling.

    I realized last night that I have to find my own magic during this time.  Luckily I didn't have to look far.  My magic is the amazing miracle of life that I brought into this world.  She's smart, funny, sassy and reminds me of the simplicity of life everyday of the week, not just during Christmas.  She is truly my lifesaver.  Do I have the typical "holiday spirit"? No, but I have a spirit of gratitude.  I am thankful for all that I have and most importantly for the real Reason for the season.

    What do you do when you find yourself not feeling the Christmas spirit?  Do you push yourself to join in the festivities or do you succumb to the sadness?  Does it annoy you to no end when people try to push you into going through the motions when they have no idea how hard you're fighting just to stay above water during this time?  Do you have a method to deal with holiday blues? If so, pray tell.

    From my grateful heart to yours,

     

    Always Clinking,

    Tee

     

     

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